Nov 18, 2011

FALLING IN LOVE WITH AN UGLY MAN


I’ll never forget, my freshman year of college I met this girl who was trying her best to maintain a long distance relationship with her boyfriend back home. When my other friends and I asked to see his picture, she showed us and then stated matter of factly:
“Justin* isn’t cute.”
What?!?
We all looked at her in shock. This was the guy she’d shamelessly expressed her longing, love and affection for and here she was, saying she didn’t think he was cute. At least one of us expressed our confusion. “Dang Marti*! How can you say that?”
Again she was unapologetic in her reply.
“I think Justin is attractive and I love him; but when I first met him, I didn’t think he was cute. Really, nobody would look at him and think he was cute. ”
They were harsh words. We didn’t agree or disagree with her at that exact moment; but as I looked at his picture, I could see her point. True, he wasn’t hideous but he wouldn’t stop traffic.
And she wasn’t being mean. She was just stating a fact and a phenomenon I’ve observed several times now. While we may say we want this or that physical characteristic in a man; at the end of the day, you or I, could easily end up falling in love with an ugly man.  (Or person– for my lesbian sisters in the struggle.)
Note: Ugly is a harsh word so I’ll say unattractive, or “has interesting features,” or use some other euphemism to illustrate that homeboy isn’t a banger. 
We women love to ogle over an attractive man. We’ll take in his face, the defined jawline, the dazzling smile, glistening, rock hard abs, v-shaped waist and power thighs with much delight. If we’re alone we might find ourselves in a daze or if we’re with the girls we might lean over and whisper a “He could get it.” We’ve all been there but in reality most of us are more likely to end up with a man who’s a little chubby, has taco meat and might possess just one or two of the above mentioned physical attributes… if we’re lucky.
Don’t be discouraged by this news ladies, these are just the facts of life.
By now you’re probably thinking why is it that women have to settle? What about the men?
Men have this ability too. But really, they don’t have to learn or use this skill of “looking past” to the level that we do. Think about it. We women spend exorbitant amounts of time, money and effort into perfecting our outward appearance, mostly because we know that men are more visually inclined.
But every now and then we’ll see a man who is drop dead gorgeous with a woman who doesn’t quite match his attractiveness. You need look no further than Hollywood for examples. No names needed.
The truth is, the ability to “look past” is a bit more encouraging than it really sounds. After all, being able to overlook someone’s outward appearance and fall in love with their character and their spirit speaks to the profundity of love. Real love, the kind we don’t often see on our TV screens.

The Hottest Chick In The Game: Chelly-O Lookin’ Lovely In Hawaii



Michelle Obama was looking absolutely stunning accompanying husband Barry-O in Hawaii:
According to a White House pool report, the president sported the same suit he’d been wearing earlier in the day. “But who cares when next to him was FLOTUS in a stunning strapless dress that appeared to be made of raw silk,” the pooler wrote.
The first lady wore a two-tone grey dress with an asymmetrical pink sash made by Vera wang.The designer tweeted on Monday, “What an honor and privilege to have dressed our beloved First Lady, Michelle Obama, @BarackObama xxV.”

What Billionaire’s Swank Apartment Can Be Yours For Only $15K A Month???

Whose crib is this that’s available for the low low price of 15 stacks? Oprah’s!
Winfrey bought the sixth-floor property for $5.6 million in 2006, but never moved in. It was reported in Chicago Magazine that she was afraid of nosy neighbors peeping in. She tried selling it for $6 million beginning in June 2008, and withdrew the property from the market in January 2009.
You may be on the fence because the price is so cheap, but these pictures might entice you.

Reality Ballers: Inside Kim Zolciak And Her Boo Kroy Biermann’s Million Dollar Wedding

Kim Zolciak dropped a milli on her dream wedding to Atlanta Falcons player Kroy Biermann:
“We spared no expense — you only do this once,” Kim admits to Life &style in the new issue, on newsstands now. “This is it for me. It was very expensive, but we were in a position to do it, and I’m thankful for that.” Kim certainly didn’t worry about expenses when it came to her big day, which cost nearly $1 million. The bride wore three dresses totaling close to $100,000! The 33-year-old reality star’s pre-owned handmade Baracci wedding gown cost $58,000 all on its own! Made of duchess satin and embellished with Swarovski crystals, pearls and embroidered lace, the dress made Kim look like the perfect princess . Her second dress was an $18,000 mermaid gown covered in pearls and Swarovski crystals. Later on in the evening, Kim changed yet again into a $16,000 backless jumpsuit covered in Swarovski crystals and pearls. Both pieces were designed by Pnina Tornai of Say Yes to the Dress fame.
Aside from napkins embroidered with the couple’s monogram, luxe details include custom-made Anais Collezioni dresses for Kim’s daughters, Ariana and Brielle, an 11-carat emerald-cut wedding band for Kim and a band featuring 77 black diamonds and 26 white diamonds for Kroy (both rings were designed by Tara Fine Jewelry Co.). And Kim tells Life & Style that their towering 11-layer cake from Highland Bakery cost a whopping $14,000! Luckily, she hired celebrity event designer Colin Cowie (colincowieweddings.com) to make sure it all came together.
But the best part of the day? Kim committing to the love of her life. “I can’t believe I’m married. I’m so excited. When you find the right person, you’re 1,000 percent sure,” she tells Life & Style. “Now we’re a family, and it’s such a blessing.”

Who Looked More Bangin?? Amber Rose Vs. Keri Hilson

Keri Hilson and Amber Rose were both on the red carpet for the 2011 Soul Train Award last night in ATL. Although Amber is looking a little conservative here, we still must ask…
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